Lisa Murphy Counselling & Hypnotherapy

Anger Management and the Child Punishment Law

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This week physical punishment of children became illegal in Wales.  What do you think about that?  Are you surprised it isn’t already a thing?  Or are you from the ‘school of hard knocks’ thinking that a clip around the ear every once in a while never did you any harm? Click below for the video version of this blog Perhaps for many of us, the odd smack didn’t cause any long-term effects.  But for a lot of my anger management clients, the physical violence they went through, or witnessed,  during childhood was damaging in many ways. However, if they mentionContinue Reading

How to communicate better with your partner

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Are you and your partner having troubles in your relationship?  Are you having disagreements, or finding it hard to see eye to eye? When we ignore those trivial misunderstandings and little problems, they can fester inside and grow into burning resentments that often explode out during arguments, and it’s not pleasant for either of you. Here’s a simple exercise that will give you the chance to speak and be heard, help you to listen to one another, and to communicate more effectively. Couples Communication Exercise Put aside all distractions.  Turn off your phones, make sure any children or pets areContinue Reading

Are your childhood beliefs holding you back?

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I have a friend who, until he was about 16, genuinely believed his Dad wrote ‘Help’ by The Beatles. Turns out, his Dad just liked kidding around. As children, we tend to believe without question the things the grown-ups around us say.  But what if those things aren’t so light-hearted? For some people, they were told very damaging things as they grew up, by the people who should have been protecting and nurturing them.  Things that basically translated as: ‘You’re not good enough’ ‘You’re not allowed’ ‘You don’t deserve love’ ‘You shouldn’t speak up’ And these beliefs can haunt themContinue Reading

Getting angry online? Here’s a tip.

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Do you ever find yourself getting angry or annoyed at something you’ve read online? If you’re tempted to fire off an irate reply – STOP! (For the video version of this blog, click ‘play’ on the image below) Wait before you hit that reply button. By all means write your reply – get out all the things you need to say, then –and this is important! – don’t send it. Take a step back, breathe, go and have a cup of tea, stretch, go outside, anything to change state.  Even sleep on it if possible. Then when you feel calmer,Continue Reading

Simple tip for a clear organised mind

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“Your mind was meant to be a factory (not a warehouse)” ~ Mike Vardy [Click on the pic below for the video version of this blog] I love this quote as I think it perfectly describes how our minds are creative and love to come up with new ideas, but they don’t do so well with storing ‘to do’ lists and other day-to-day information.  I often speak with busy people during my anger management sessions who have a hundred things they need to do that day crammed in their minds, and it can really stress them out and weigh themContinue Reading

Do I Need Anger Management Counselling?

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Have you been considering Anger Management Counselling, but keep putting it off?  Not sure whether it can really help you?  Here are some of the most common thoughts that prevent people from getting help with their anger: 1: “There’s nothing wrong with me” I completely agree. There isn’t anything wrong with you. But if you’re starting to struggle with anger issues, you may have noticed yourself beginning to over-react to certain situations. For instance, you might get snappy with your partner or children over trivial things, then later on you feel embarrassed and wonder why such a small incident madeContinue Reading

Mindful Memories

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Last week I reached the age of 50. There’s something about reaching these milestone ages that makes me take stock of where I am, think about what I want to achieve in life, and reflect on the memories that have brought me to this moment. The thing is, when I think of the memories that really stand out to me in my life, they haven’t been the spectacular moments or the exciting times. They’ve been the quiet, reflective moments; moments in time where I just stopped and realised all was well in my world. Times like when I was sittingContinue Reading

2 minute practice to help reduce anger and anxiety

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This simple daily practice will help you to reduce any anger, anxiety or stress that’s building up inside. It can be done anywhere – you could be out in public, waiting in a queue at the post office, or sitting in a traffic jam. All you have to do is develop a regular practice of checking in with your body. Just send your awareness within, scan around your body, and PAY ATTENTION to how you’re feeling. Reduce anger and anxiety Don’t leave it too late I don’t mean you should do this when you’re already at the height of anyContinue Reading

How to deal with anger in relationships

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How do you deal with anger in relationships? Anger is one of the biggest causes of relationship breakdowns.  During those stormy arguments things can be said in the heat of the moment – and regretted the next day.  So how do we stop things from getting out of hand? Anger can be a scary feeling, can’t it? It’s one of those emotions we’re really not ‘allowed’ to have. For a lot of us, from the time we’re old enough to express our anger – which we usually do in the middle of the supermarket, having a crying fit, turning redContinue Reading