Have you been considering Anger Management Counselling, but keep putting it off? Not sure whether it can really help you? Here are some of the most common thoughts that prevent people from getting help with their anger:
1: “There’s nothing wrong with me”
I completely agree. There isn’t anything wrong with you.
But if you’re starting to struggle with anger issues, you may have notice yourself beginning to over-react to certain situations.
For instance, you might get snappy with your partner or children over trivial things, then later on you feel embarrassed and wonder why such a small incident made you fly off the handle.
This can be due to a build up of stress from work, or it may be connected to some loss or trauma from your past. For some people they’ve simply grown up around angry behaviour and learned that it was normal to be like that.
During my anger management program you will learn easy ways to reduce stress from both past and present circumstances, so you can control your reactions and feel calmer in any situation.
2: “It’s too expensive”
One-to-one private anger counselling may seem expensive in the short term, but in the long term it can be one of the best investments you’ll ever make.
I often have people coming to see me who know they should have come years ago.
By this point they can be facing divorce, their job can be under threat, and their health can be really suffering from all the stress.
That’s not to mention all the other little ways that anger can cost you money. The phone you smashed when you threw it to the ground after an argument… the hole you punched in the wall in sheer frustration… the alcohol you’re drinking to try and ‘relax’ yourself and forget about it all…
Let’s face it, anger can be very destructive when it’s not dealt with appropriately.
So have a think about how much it might cost you NOT to get the help you need.
Then do yourself a favour and get some help sooner rather than later. Remember: prevention is so much better than cure.
3: “It’s just talking – that’s not going to work”
Believe me – my program is much more than ‘just talking’. I’ll show you practical strategies and techniques to start reducing your stress and anger immediately.
As long as you’re willing to make the necessary changes in your life, then you’ll start to see results from day 1.
If you’re still unsure, take a look at my testimonials to see what previous clients have to say.
4: “It’ll take too long”
Even if you’ve been struggling for a long time with anger issues, it can actually be a relatively quick and straightforward process to do something about it.
All I ask is that you’re committed to changing, and willing to put in the work.
I’ll guide you through it all, and make it as easy as possible for you.
And as the sessions are held over Zoom or on the telephone, you can have your counselling in a place that’s convenient and comfortable for you.
5: I’m embarrassed about my anger and I feel ashamed to talk about it
A lot of people – in particular my male clients – just don’t feel comfortable talking about themselves, and this really puts them off the thought of going to counselling.
If this sounds like you, don’t worry, as we can concentrate on the more practical aspects of anger management; learning techniques and strategies for successfully controlling your emotions.
I realise it can feel really difficult to talk about personal stuff – especially to somebody you’ve never met before. But whatever you tell me, I’m not here to judge you. I have nothing but compassion and admiration for the people who are brave enough to decide it’s time to change.
I know it takes guts to reach out for help, and I’ll do my best to make the whole experience as comfortable as possible for you.
As a private therapist, I can assure you that sessions are completely confidential, and you’ll deal directly with me at all times. There’ll be no receptionists, managers, or outside interference of any kind to compromise your privacy.
6: “It’ll turn me into a wimp”
Sometimes people can worry that the anger management process will turn them into a wimp or a doormat – but the reality is very different.
In fact, part of the process will be identifying areas of your life where you can be more assertive; finding the times when you should be saying NO; creating healthy boundaries and putting yourself first when you need to.
I’ll help you transform that anger and rage into a healthy, confident attitude that you can use appropriately in the right situations.
If you think you might need help in working through your anger issues, please don’t find an excuse to put it off. There’s too much at stake.
I see too many people who tell me they should have come for counselling years ago, and now they’re on brink of losing everything they hold dear.
So get in touch while there’s still time to turn things around. Take that first step to managing your anger and transforming your life.
Lisa Murphy is a counsellor and hypnotherapist based in Glasgow who specialises in anxiety, anger management, and weight loss.