I made my New Year’s Resolutions for 2018 today. You might think it’s a little premature to be making New Year’s Resolutions on the 21st December, but I prefer to set my intentions for the coming year on the Winter Solstice. It feels like such a magical day that it just seems like the right time to do it.
And here in Scotland today it certainly was a perfectly magical day – all misty and mysterious.
When making New Year’s Resolutions (and indeed when I set any kind of intentions), I begin by identifying my end-goal. That thing that I specifically want to create; the end result of all my hard work; whether it be a healthy fit body, or success in my business, or better relationships, etc.
Where most people fail with New Year’s Resolutions is that they stop there. They set a lofty end-goal: ‘I want a slim beach body’ for example, and then neglect to examine how exactly they’re going to accomplish that – other than perhaps join a gym on January 2nd.
But the thing with those lofty end-goals is that they’re often very far away, and part of you will be thinking ‘argh… I’ll never be able to do that!’.
So, the way I get around that is to ‘chunk’ my resolutions down into small, easily manageable daily tasks.
So today, like I do every Winter Solstice (in fact, like I do most days, if truth be known), I identified the end-goals I wish to achieve in regard to all the parts of my life – eg health, relationships, career, and so on.
Then I worked out what simple daily routines will eventually lead to those goals becoming manifest. So for instance regarding health, for me, these routines mean working out every day, eating healthy raw food, fasting on a regular basis, etc.
I keep these routines realistic and make sure I’m not setting myself tasks that won’t make me feel overwhelmed. In fact, most of the routines I already follow without thinking; however this annual ‘check-up’ allows me to identify which habits are starting to slip, which ones need updating, and make a few necessary tweaks here and there.
I find this exercise works really well for keeping me on track as each year goes by, so that I can slowly and surely get closer to achieving what I want in life.
Consistency may not be the sexiest buzz-word, but just like the tortoise when he raced the hare, it always wins out in the end.
A lot of people love to have their future foretold to them in some way, whether that be tarot cards, tea-leaves etc. While these things can be fascinating, remember that you don’t need a crystal ball to see into your future. You already have your crystal ball, right here, right now.
Your crystal ball is your daily routine: those things you do every day that will eventually add up to create your future. So if you want to create something in your future that is different to what you’ve experienced in your past, then create habits in your daily life that will change your life and lead to success.
Lisa Murphy is a counsellor and hypnotherapist based in Glasgow who specialises in anxiety, anger management, and weight loss.