One of the benefits of counselling is that it can help you recognise when certain relationships just aren’t right for you any more.
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Have you ever had to let go of a friendship, realising they weren’t such a great person to have in your life anymore?
Sometimes we can have friends for many years, but as we grow and change, those friendships don’t ‘fit’ us as well as they used to. We notice things we didn’t notice before. What we might have put up with in the past, now feels increasingly uncomfortable.
So how does counselling help us to recognise this?
When people come for counselling, their own personal boundaries often begin to shift.
When they start to engage in relationship with somebody who gives them their undivided attention – someone who really listens when they speak – then they can start to look around their other relationships and notice when they’re not being allowed to express themselves; when they’re being closed down in some way – maybe overtly, or also in more subtle ways.
And they gradually start to strengthen their boundaries against this. Perhaps they might start to say no when before they might have said yes. Perhaps they’ll speak their mind and say what they want, rather than always giving in to the other person.
As you engage in counselling you can often find that relationships come and go. Some old friends may drop off, and new friendships can appear.
Because as you start to change your ‘energy field’ so to speak, then the relationship dynamics around you start to morph with that as well. Once you expect to be given the time and attention that you deserve, then people often respond to that and change accordingly.
Just thought it was worth discussing this ‘not so obvious’ benefit of counselling!
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